hi,

I went to the doctor yesterday and was told i might have herpes. The first thought that went through my mind was, how? Following that, i was scared to think that my partner for 8 years would cheat on me. The doctor assured me though, that having herpes does not mean your partner is cheating. they said it could be something that he or I cought prior to our relationship. Since this is my body, i know i have not been unfaithful to him. The only sexual contact i had prior to him was one oral sex expeience, which was two years prior to our relationship, which makes it about 10 years ago. If indeed i've contracted herpes from that experience, why do i have the outbreak right now?
Is it normal to have an outbreak 10 years after being infected? i am confused....

Your boyfriend gave it to you.
You know that you didn't sleep around.

Yes, and I belive that your partner gave it to you.

herpes can lie dormant for years and the reappear so it might not be your partner.
if you trust him to tell you the truth then continue you with that
if not .......then that in itself will be stressful and challenging
hopefully it wont reoccure again