I think the worst part of herpes virus is the day you need to tell your partner! I was so nervous each time.
It’s important to have the full support of your lover. One of the biggest obstacles to imagining an outbreak free future is the fear of giving herpes to your partner. Please do treat your herpes and please do practice safer sex with a condom/dental dam and an anti-viral gel, this will ease your mind, but it’s not enough. I stopped having outbreaks when my girlfriend at the time told me that she wasn’t afraid of getting herpes from me. This powerful declaration set me free.

I was no longer anxious when we were having sex. I never had an outbreak in the time we were together and have only had three in the past seven years, with only one in the past three years despite having a very busy and demanding holistic viral practice which often leaves me with no sleep and little time to eat on a regular schedule. If you have a partner who is very nervous about getting herpes from you, you may want to consider getting another partner or finding a way of addressing your partner’s fears because the anxiety from a fearful partner and your own fear of infecting an uninfected person will often be enough to keep the cycle of outbreaks happening.

The last piece of advice I have to offer in this note is to stop seeing yourself as a victim. You are a human being. You can practice safer sex to protect your partner and yourself. Herpes is no big deal - just be honest!